Curiosity Expands the "Now": Here's How To Train Yours
Most people think curiosity fades with age. New research shows the opposite: your appetite for novelty may shift, but your spark of in-the-moment curiosity actually sharpens.
This matters for vitality. Curiosity is one of the most powerful tools for keeping life vivid. It helps your brain focus on what truly resonates, strengthens memory, deepens relationships, and makes everyday life more textured and alive.
But here's what the research misses: curiosity requires a regulated nervous system. You can't be curious when you're in protection mode.
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Heather Hurlock's piece reveals something most wellness culture gets wrong: curiosity doesn't wane as you age. What changes is the type of curiosity. You become less interested in chasing novelty for novelty's sake and more interested in engaging deeply with what feels meaningful.
Younger adults scatter attention everywhere.
Older adults invest curiosity in what resonates. That's an upgrade.
Curiosity also has measurable effects on health: better memory performance, longer lifespan, emotional resilience, cognitive flexibility, and stronger social bonds.
Don't have time to read it? Here's what you need to know:
Curiosity doesn't fade with age. It becomes more selective. You move from novelty-seeking to meaningful engagement. Your brain invests energy in what feels relevant, not just what's new.
Curiosity enhances memory. When you're curious before learning something new, you retain more. This applies across all ages. Curiosity sparks dopamine pathways, making information more likely to be encoded and recalled.
Curiosity is linked to longevity. A five-year study found that older adults with higher curiosity scores were significantly more likely to survive. Curiosity acts as a psychological buffer that supports health.
Curiosity builds resilience. It's linked to greater adaptability during life transitions, increased comfort with uncertainty, and the ability to navigate change. These are hallmarks of cognitive resilience
Curiosity strengthens relationships. Curious people are more open, expressive, and engaged in social situations. They show greater interpersonal closeness, more humor, and a tendency to initiate unconventional conversation.
Curiosity is renewable. Unlike risk, which requires bigger jolts to break through your brain's filters, curiosity and awe are sustainable. They expand the now without depletion.
Why Curiosity Requires a Regulated Nervous System
Curiosity is a green zone state. You can't explore when your nervous system is in protection mode. Exploration requires safety.
Think about the last time you felt genuinely curious. You were relaxed, open, present. Now think about when someone tried to make you curious while stressed. It felt like pressure, not possibility.
This is why high-performers lose access to curiosity.
Selective Curiosity Is Your Biology Protecting Energy
As we age, curiosity becomes more selective. We stop chasing novelty and start investing attention in what feels meaningful. The optimization model says be curious about everything. That creates exhaustion. Partnership says your biology knows what calls to you.
Selective curiosity is your system directing energy toward what genuinely matters. Listen.
Curiosity Expands Time Through Dopamine
When you lean into curiosity, you widen the present moment. Neuroscience shows curiosity sparks dopamine pathways, making information more likely to be encoded and recalled.
Curiosity makes life memorable. It expands your experience of time without requiring more hours. You're deepening the texture of the years you have.
Three Blocks to Curiosity
All curiosity blocks are protection patterns. Your nervous system is in protection mode, not exploration mode.
Unmet expectations. Your Executive steps in to correct or close down. Curiosity requires letting go of how things "should" be.
Uncertainty or complexity. Your system perceives confusion as threat. You can't be curious when ambiguity reads as danger.
Ego protection. Not knowing feels like weakness. Your Executive blocks exploration to preserve competence. Regulate first, then invite curiosity second.
The root is the same: your nervous system is in protection mode, not exploration mode. Regulate first, then invite curiosity second.
Six Practices for Training Curiosity
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Curiosity shows up most easily when you're regulated. Pay attention to when you feel naturally curious. What conditions are present? Time of day? Energy level? Social context?
That's data about what your nervous system needs to access exploration mode.
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If you want to be curious about something but feel resistance, get back to green zone first. Three slow breaths. Hand over heart. Grounding ritual.
Curiosity is a state you invite, not a trait you force.
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Selective curiosity means your biology is directing attention toward what matters. When you feel a flicker of interest, name it. Write it down.
That's your Creature telling you what resonates.
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When something confuses or frustrates you, pause. Instead of "Why is this happening?" ask "What else could be going on here?"
This shifts your nervous system from threat response to exploration mode.
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When you encounter something you don't know, say: "I wonder." Out loud if possible. This builds tolerance for ambiguity and primes learning circuits.
It also signals to your nervous system that not knowing is safe.
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Each day, notice one moment where you felt even a flicker of interest. Write it down. That's your curiosity in action.
Small evidence compounds. Your Creature learns that exploration is safe and rewarding.
